My mum is always so sad ...

I wonder if my parents are still normal.

Somehow mum or dad are different than usually or maybe you don’t really know her/him any other way but when your friend last visited, they have asked what was wrong with you mum or dad.

Does your mother or father suddenly have frequent mood swings or strange thought or fears? There are also parents who drink a lot of alcohol and that become very aggressive. When parents suddenly start having lots of sad days and for example, they don’t get up from the couch or they no longer do things that they used to do for you and your siblings, that is strange. Sometimes you might also be embarrassed about what’s going on at home and you try to hide it from your friends and your teachers. Maybe you try to replace your parents in the sense that you help more than usual in the household, you take care of your siblings and on top of this, you try to get good results at school.

You may be afraid of the consequences should people know how your mum or dad really are. All this can be very scary and confusing for you. Maybe you also feel that you are responsible or that it is your fault? One thing needs to be said, you are not responsible for the functioning of your family.

Just as our body can get sick, so can our soul. But even during this difficult time, there is help for you and your parents. Because of illness, your parent may not be able to look after you as you may need and you deserve it. Everyone can have a bad day but if this continues, it is important for you and your parents to get help.

With us you can chat, phone or write. We will do this together.